Some people who self-harm have said that it helps distract them from the emotional pain or emptiness they feel; it’s a respite. That makes it an okay thing by many people’s definition because it after all offers relief. Does this mean they should carry on self-harming?
What happens when my happiness collides with another person’s and they are mutually exclusive?
What happens when my ‘happiness’ is a danger to my own self? What gives? And how much?
Study the life of anybody who ever amounted to anything great or achieved anything monumental and you’ll quickly find out that they were a person of strong convictions. That is what great leaders are made of. They believe steadfastly in a cause and then give themselves wholly to it. There are even negative examples of this but the principle is the same: the people who go on to shake the world are those who decide on something and believe in it with all their hearts. Steve Jobs believed in the vision of Apple, Adolf Hitler believed in being a beast, Nelson Mandela believed in freedom for all, and Osama bin Laden believed strongly enough in whatever he believed in to hold the whole world at ransom.
What will you do when you run out of things to ‘DO’ to make you happy?
Happiness lives where you plant it.
At some point you need to acknowledge that the fulfilment you seek will not be found in doing but in being.
More to come… Lookout for the follow-up article.